Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8For the last several weeks we've been talking about LOVE at the Noonan house. We started reading the 'love' chapter in the Bible and talking about it during supper. We've had some interesting conversations and the children are most of the way through memorizing 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. Lucy, of course, likes talking about love and kisses and 'marrying' and babies and beautiful things but Samuel wasn't so excited about the whole thing but he is into soldiers and secret missions.
To engage them in thinking about what LOVE really means outside of our conversations I gave them secret missions to do during the day and report back at dinner the next day - or when I remembered. Each time we talked about a different adjective of love - like "patient" or "kind" - I would tell them to try and love someone the next day by choosing to be patient or kind or whatever we were talking about. They reported back the next night with a story about what they did. Samuel liked thinking about it as a secret mission and told me he loved his teacher by being kind and erasing the board for her. Lucy likes secrets and she reported back the she shared her cheese with brother at lunch as something kind she did to love him.
There were several days when we could use situations as examples of how NOT to love someone. This gave us a chance to talk about what would be better response to your brother when he gets the stool first to brush his teeth at the bathroom sink than just screaming and yelling. How to love him by being patient.
AND how brother can love sister by letting her go first even if he made it there first by not being rude.
AND how mommy can love her kiddos better by choosing to not get easily angered.
It's been a fun way to talk about and PRACTICE love in our home. It makes an easy reference in the day when I hear the kids being impatient to be able to say "are you loving your brother by being patient?" "was that a kind or rude way to talk to mommy?" or "are you being loving by boasting?" BUT be prepared to be reminded that we are all learning together "Mommy, that was not very patient!" may pop out of someone's mouth - and I'm glad for the reminders that we are all being transformed into a more loving family together. For Jeremy and I it helps us talk to the kids about what is going on in a repetitive way and they are learning and we are remembering what is important
"and the greatest of these is LOVE."Ultimately, we won't and don't love perfectly (or even come close) - by thinking about what love is I have seen how often I fall short and choose not to love. BUT in my inability to love - I'm reminded of the beauty of the gospel that it isn't about our perfection but God's love for us that not only covers our inability but is perfected in our weakness and sin. We need God's grace to help us love others. We need God's grace to love HIM. We need God's grace to help us forgive. We need His grace to help us see clearly the truth and not respond in anger or keep a record of wrongs. We need HIS son, Jesus, to cover our sin and make us loveable. We can't love on our own - we need God to change us and LOVE through us. Thank you, Lord, for your LOVE for us!
Have a Happy Valentine's Day remembering what LOVE is all about!